Let me get one thing straight. Tony and I waited a long time to have kids. We have been together for 8 years and have been married for 3. We didn't want to have kids just to leave them behind. We decided that we wanted to wait until we were ready to include them in everything we do. We didn't understand the point of having a baby, then leaving them to do other things. When you have a baby, your life is changed forever. We realized that, which is why we waited. We waited until we were ready to include our baby with everything we do, whether that be river trips, or birthday parties, lunches, dinners, bunco, whatever it may be. If you have an issue with my baby coming along with me, then don't get pissy when I decide not to come. And keep your comments to yourself. Sure, I've hosted adult-only events before, but when the people that have kids declined to attend, I understood. That was their choice when they decided to have kids.
I'm sorry that I want to include my child in everything I do, that was something that was decided when we had a child. I'm sorry that I don't feel the need to take a "break" from him and run off to do other things. He will be included in my plans, and if he's not, then don't expect me to be there. Our days of bar-hopping are over. We are both almost 30 years old and have both done our share of partying. I no longer understand the point of going and sitting in a bar getting trashed off of expensive drinks in a room full of young 20-somethings. I can hang out with friends in their home or our home just as easily. In fact, I would rather do that then spend all night in bars.
Looking back, I guess I'm not angry that these people are talking. Really, I feel more sad for them than anything. These people that don't have kids because they're not married, or these people that leave their kids often because they just can't handle them or just don't want to deal with them. Yes, I feel sorry for them. My baby is my priority.